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Sister: I’ve grown fatter! Now when I walk, my thigh touches. It wasn’t like this in the past. 

Good Times Ahead

Singapore is currently entering it’s hotter season. I read on the news that the temperature rose up to 36•Celsius. 😱😱 I often ask my friends who lived overseas about surviving hot seasons in other countries. They said that it’s not so bad overseas because they don’t have as much humidity as Singapore. 

I can’t comprehend this. I have only experienced hot weather with humidity in Southeast Asia. 😟

But anyho, I recently caved in and bought a portable Akira aircon for my room.👏🏻 I share my room with 2 other people, so it’s extremely stuffy this time of year. 😩 I didn’t research on what aircon to buy. I bought mine simply because the Akira brand promoter was more pleasant compared to others. 👍🏻 


My room wasn’t designed with aircon (or technology😑) in mind, so it was hard finding a spot for it. The window, where I had placed the air vent, had gaping openings which I could not cover. 😧

Solution. I went to Daiso the next day, bought small wooden planks, glued all of them together and covered the hole. Still, there is this palm sized hole which i covered with the curtain. I can live with that. 😕
The portable aircon worked well for my needs. Not super strong since I let it stay on 25•Celsius , according to the energy saving tips the government sent us. However it was noisy and I was not expecting that. The demo at the store was silent and I thought it was like that. Apparently, it’s normal. And it’s a good thing my sister, who is sharing the room, and I didn’t mind the noise! 👍🏻👏🏻

My other big splurge for that month – or from my first salary, was to buy a $200 Linksys router. 🤑 I was very excited to finally be able to utilize my 1gbps internet speed. I don’t know if it’s placebo, but it’s definitely faster. 🤔

Before I went to set it up, I told my distant, recluse-like father about the router purchase. He got all excited and took over the set up! 🤗 I was like 10% annoyed because I like to be in control. But I’m glad that there is something my father can look forward to. Putting father over self. 😚 /win

However, the internet went down the next day and I had to reset the modern. 😑 So, in the end, I still took over. Oh well. 

But exciting times. I’ve stopped all the big purchases for this month. Next month, I’m going to buy a standing fan for my father, a menstrual cup and one other big purchase. 😱

Life is about progressing anyway.  🙃

The Month I became Jobless

I went on a month holiday to Thailand and Surabaya in 2 months back. I thought that when I get back there would be work for me. Unfortunately, that was not the case. ☹️ So for the months of December and January, I had no income. I’ve been relying on my non-existence savings, and borrowed money. ?

I wish I could say that I was very productive for the month that I’ve been jobless. I mean I have tons of things I want to do, I just happen to procrastinate a lot. ? The reason I didn’t look for a new job because I was holding onto hope that there would be still work from my previous job.

However, I did revamped my father’s room and I’m super proud of it ? – I should’ve taken a before-after picture.

He went away for 2 months, and I took this opportunity to tear down his room. Threw every furniture, painted the whole room and re-layout his sleeping area. I did this all by myself, gotten lots of shits from my grandmother for “not knowing what your father’s temper is like” ? , and went to ikea numerous times to buy different furnitures. For those without cars, just hire a gogovan. Saved my life twice when I bought furnitures that I can’t even carry. ?

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One thing on my master list is done. My next master project would be converting my storeroom into a bedroom. I’m sure it’s possible, I just need to figure out how first.

Other than the room, I did nothing. I tried learning to code on CodeUpStart and start a side project hoping that it would boost my online presence if said project takes off – but I haven’t find the motivation to complete the lessons ? . (I’m going to try and finish the lessons after this)

I attempted to design a new website for Ribbonhood, but I’m not sure how I want to brand myself so that did not take off – I did finalised a logo though ?. I also stared at Merhost for quite a bit because I know the site needs a refresh.

However, in the midst of all of these. I got a job! Yay me!

A Wedding in Surabaya

My first destination wedding.

The first wedding where I’m truly excited to go.

Cath was a good friend of mine in school. When I dropped out to pursue my interest, we lost contact. I thought to myself “There goes my friend“. 4 years later, I received an invitation to her wedding, along with the rest of the clique! I thought she had forgotten about me. I didn’t realised I was still considered a close friend!

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I was touched especially after I heard that she only invited a selected few.

I booked my tickets soon after and went to meet the rest of my friends. Boy did I missed them. I missed our conversations, the laughter and their presence. Not many people like the conversations that I like. But they do. Actually, only Prun, the rest just judged.

It was a beautiful wedding. Simple yet all out at the same time. Cath held a small wedding, but hired the best makeup artist in Surabaya, as well the top DJ. I’m sure there were a lot more but I’m not sure who are they.

The morning of her wedding, Cath invited us to her home while she prepared. It was a nice gesture for her as we get to witness her private life with her family. I even got my makeup done by a makeup artist!

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The wedding itself was beautiful even though it was in another language. My friends and I sat on the bench feeling proud to see our best friend walk down the aisle.

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A beautiful wedding.

Happy marriage to you!

Expected Expenditure for the Coming Months

I have a lot of things that I have to purchase in the coming months. Items are still in my cart, and I’m thinking of ways to reduce said amount. I really do not want to spend money as I’m trying to save as much as possible – especially now when I was paid 2 months of salary at one go. Here are some of things I need/have to buy:

Home and Living

  • Mattress (Live-in maid is sleeping on thin mattress because grandmother threw the thicker one away without letting me know) – $100
  • 100pc x Hangers (Previous hangers broke, plus there are more clothes to hang now) – $40
  • Steam Vacuum (Previous vacuum broke) – $70
  • Plastic Storage Containers (Father is a hoarder) – $80
  • Bed frame (Father need smaller bed for bigger room space) – $100


  • Tablet (Christmas present for my grandmother requested by my mother) – $100/$139
  • 100 sheets Fujifilm (Mine ran out) – $85
  • Earpiece (Lost my Apple earpiece) – $50


  • Bangkok to Chiang Rai Domestic Flight – $50
  • Chiang Mai to Bangkok Domestic Flight – $50
  • Travel insurance – $??


  • Christmas Tree (Mom gave away ours years ago) – $20
  • Presents for family in Thailand – $100

And that is my reduced version of my initial “shopping list”, and excluding other expenditures such as salary for my live-in helper, monthly allowance to my mom and bills. I feel like my family don’t know how much I have to spend and they take my for granted because I’m the eldest and I earn the most.

I also have to change the house bills over to my name(more bills!), and next year have to upgrade my 20 mbps internet speed as there are 4 people in my household using it.

I cannot deal with incoming stress or people who tries to oppose me. One of my next step of action is leveraging my mom’s allowance by making her say what i want to say to my grandmother – this way I won’t have to deal with her opposition.

Tell grandmother that I’m revamping father’s room and she is NOT to say anything. And tell grandmother that she SHOULD have told me when she threw away the maid’s original mattress. Because I didn’t know that the maid was sleeping in such dreadful conditions – it’s abuse!

Oh! And if my mom does anything stupid I’m just going to say “You taught me to forgive but you don’t do the same. You don’t save money. You don’t think of the future. All these I WILL learn from you, and if I suffer in the future, it’ll be because you set up such a ‘good’ role model“. Hopefully this line will wake her up from her naiveness.

I’m so tired of trying to manage everyone in my family. Why can’t they grow up?